Does it really matter whether it’s arrange marriage or love marriage? Why people are so curious to know and judge others by how they got married. Most of the time when the discussion of arrange married v. love marriage start people loves to mention that arrange marriage are more successful than love marriage. Is it really? Think again, based on how many people are taking divorce from their love marriage doesn’t give you the 100% accurate results that arrange marriage is more successful. To be honest with you, love marriage and arrange marriages are equal.
Before I get into detail explanation let’s make things bit clear. Let’s start with the meaning of love marriage and arrange marriage. Love marriage does NOT mean a male and a female run away and get married in a temple on a hill. It simply means when two people find the common ground and decided to spend the rest of their lives together to face the good and the bad situation. In other words, when a guy and a girl decided to marry each other with out the help of their parents (that does not mean they are not telling their parents).
Arrange marriage means you find your life partner with the help of your parents and family member. The logic in both the scenario is the same. Find a common ground, comfort level, attraction, and education etc. I believe most people observe the number of divorce from love marriage against arrange marriage, but they are missing the point where in arrange marriage there is a lot to compromise. Not that love marriages don’t have compromises, but to me it seems arrange marriage have more.
Love marriage is a personal decision where there is less involvement of family, family prestige and society. Arrange marriage is decided based on two or more number of families. When it comes to divorce or any major issue to address, people involved in love marriage, most of the time, take the decision by themselves. In arrange marriage when the couple is facing similar problem they try to involve their parents and family members for help. When family engage in solving any issue they do very silently as it involves their status in society. I visit few website where people come to get help for problem they are facing in their marriage life. Believe me majority people are coming from arrange marriage, the first reason they mention is they don’t like to ruin their family’s status in society. Another reason is they are afraid their family will think her/his in-laws are not good people (human nature – people believe when something is wrong with their loved one it is always other parties fault) It’s hard to get both sides of story and decide who is right and wrong!
What I am trying to express here is, what you see is not always true. If you go deep down you will find the facts. To me both arrange and love marriages are equal but to make your marriage successful communicate with your spouse. Try to address any issue you are facing together. Express your feeling doesn’t matter whether it’s a minor or major concern. Communication in marriage life is the key of success.
