“Virginity” – Dignity or Lack of Opportunity?
Posted by T. Waffle on September 4, 2007
I came across one blog where someone mentioned “Virginity is not a dignity it’s a lack of opportunity” is it really? Let’s start with the meaning of “Virginity”. According to online sources “Virginity means a person who has not engaged in sexual intercourse.” also known as “a state of being pure”
To some people it is a state of being pure, but for some its not. It depends on personal choice. Many people especially in South-Asian community prefer to stay virgin because they are being told to do so. Obviously, it is a different topic which I will post soon. But for some people sex is a feeling, an experiment and/or an experience, which they practice with multiple or single partner without any hesitation. To me it is not a big deal because it’s personal choice.
Let me share one of my personal experience, at my previous work place one person wore t-shirt which said “Virginity is not a dignity, it’s a lack of opportunity” from that one 45+ year old lady got offended and complained to the management people. Management staff introduced the rule of not wearing t-shirts with any slogan. When I heard about the new rule I was rolling on the floor laughing (I wasn’t rolling on the floor). I still don’t understand the comment was not on her then why was she offended? Oh well anyways, she made a big issue over the small tissue. (Just joking, don’t get offended now)
Another important point I want to cover is when we use the word virgin, first gender comes in mind is female. Why most of people think we are only talking about female when we mention virgin, a male can also choose to be one. In today’s world it is considered a shame for a male to be a virgin, why is that? If a man chooses to be a virgin so be it. You can’t make him feel guilty for his personal choice.
All I want to express here is don’t force anyone or make them guilty for their personal choice. If someone is misguided try to show the correct path. There is nothing to get offended from a joke which was made on your belief or choice directly or indirectly. Only do if you believe in you and don’t get offended by others action.
littleWriter said
Well it’s totally a personal preference n none sud interfere wid one’s choice abt staying virgin irrespective of sex… good topic offcourse…
Anonymous said
nice topic…
Dimple said
I agree with you 100% mr.
tapori. just when i thought personal choice. I read your exact words.
Kenneth said
agreed…..well put
BLACKMYST3RY said
uhhmmmm… r there aktually men in the world who’d wanna die virgins?!
i honesly doubt iT… but yea… true true.. very true.. its a persons personal choice.
but do u think that age and virginity have a relation?! i mean… frankly speaking.. most of us have or will lose it before dying,so y does it matter at what age u hv sex?!
and…how does not being a virgin make u impure… i mean…how does it affect the person u are or ure character…
sex is a need for most living things (not getting into the biology of vetebrates and yada yada crap crap). i mean why is it impure to feel gud?! why is it still a taboo to talk or even feel guilty abt(unless ure cheating on sumone) about sex when its just another thing like eating… a luxury, a need.
the narrow minded 45yr old woman seriously needs to grow up and live in the present!
Mr. Tapori said
Yes, there are men who choose to be virgin. My whole point here is why some people mislead someone with theories which doesn’t make sense. Express what you believe but don’t push people to follow what you think is right or wrong. Let them take their own decision.
BLACKMYST3RY said
true true. i agree.. and think that applies for religion as well and other stuff.
cardiogirl said
So very interesting. I agree that I immediately (and almost only) think of a woman when I hear the word “virgin.” I also agree this comes down to personal virtues/belief systems.
I think it is mostly driven by religion but has a lot to do with self esteem and personal worth. I do think that statement is a sad commentary on where society is today.
However, like mr. tapori pointed out, I try not to force my opinion on others. If you ask about it (like you have) I’ll tell you what I think, but I really don’t like having other opinions foisted on me. That’s why I keep my thoughts to my blog and myself, usually.
genny said
In my own idea being virgin is really a personal choice. When i was single i really care for my virginity. I want to get married pure and virgin. I did it and thats my personal choice.
Mr. Tapori said
That is what I tried to explain, I am glad Genny you understood your choice and didn’t follow blindly.
The message behind it is know before doing it.